We've been to Chrysalis several times over the last few years. The grounds are very nice and we usually have a good time at the tasting. Our experience with the tastings is that they are quite long. Probably owing to the long list of wines for tasting and, if they didn't take a long time most folks would have had too much wine just from the tasting. (unless you are a confirmed spitter and dumper, but I haven't seen too much of that at Virginia wineries).
The wines are good. To our experience, they aren't remarkable or great as some Virginia wines are. We do usually find a wine that is good enough to enjoy while taking in the grounds and some food and just enjoying the atmosphere. I know some people are commenting on the kiddie area. We view this area as a positive rather than a negative. We have kids, we didn't bring them and we wish you didn't either. But since you did, it nice that there is a way for us to not have to experience a day at the winery with your children. We like the grill too and actually came well enough prepared once to cook on it. It worked very well and we enjoyed a special treat on our day out.